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Of Success and Magis

by Sch. Ambrosio F. Flores, SJ

In honor of St. Satnislaus Kostka, the Ateneo de Manila High School Community gathered at the HS Covered Courts last 13 November 2009. Scholastic Ambrosio Flores, SJ, Jesuit Regent, delivered this shared Homily.

What do you want to be when you grow up?

I am certain that all of us here right now have been asked this question when we were kids. And I surmise that you would have rattled off standard answers like becoming a doctor, lawyer, engineer or even the president of the Philippines! What was intriguing for me then was that it was not enough for us to say, I want to be a doctor. We would often append the adjective successful like: I want to be a successful doctor, a successful lawyer, a successful engineer. Now that I am an adult, I ask myself why it was necessary to append the word successful. What does it mean to be successful? Today’s mass media dictate that to be successful means to have not just more but MOST: having the most expensive car, having the most extravagant house, having the most beautiful girlfriend, having the most number of awards, having the most stable and financially rewarding career, having the most trendy gadgets.

Today, let me propose an alternative definition. I learned this definition from a friend that became my personal definition of success. It eventually led me to become a companion of Jesus, a Jesuit. He said, success is becoming what you are designed to be.

Let me illustrate it. Success is becoming what you are designed to be. This microphone is only successful when it can amplify my voice across the covered courts. The Monobloc chair you are sitting on is only successful as a chair if it is used for sitting. That Clavinova piano is only successful when it can produce music as pianos should. Things are successful when they are used according to their designer’s intended plan.

Pushing it even further, we are successful when we become who we are designed to be. No, it is not just becoming what we said we wanted to be when we were kids. Well, it is a possibility but more primordial than achieving our childhood dream is becoming who we are called to be. This is also the theme of our first reading today. Be zealous, brethren to confirm your call and election. We can only be successful when we follow our inherent call as unique human beings, when we become who God designed us to be.

Since this call of being successful in life is not something that happens overnight but is a result of the many little decisions we make daily, let us narrow it down to our day to day activities. Here in the Ateneo, we are always pushed to succeed, to excel, to exhibit magis, to do more and be more! This is evidently translated as class banners, honor cards, Kostka awards and Eagle and staff awards for excellence. In some respect, this is not really different from the world’s demand of having the most, of being the most. Yet, there is something much deeper to magis than this. This is what I want to focus on.

We always aspire for the much coveted banners. There is nothing wrong with that. However, if we aspire for the banner even at the expense of the relationships in class, I believe something is amiss. If in the process of getting the banner, we become scheming tacticians and deceivers then something is wrong. What happens to you in the process of getting banners is much more important than the banners themselves. Success is becoming who our Creator designed you to be.

There is nothing wrong with making it to the honors list. In fact it is very commendable and edifying. However, if we got it through cheating, then something is really, really wrong. If we made it to the top of our class because we never helped a classmate since he is a potential competition, then you never deserved the academic honors from the Ateneo after all. What is more important is what happens to you as you proverbially burn the midnight candle, as you struggle to comprehend logarithmic functions, decipher quantum numbers or help your classmates understand the history of western Asia. Success is becoming who our Creator designed you to be.

There is nothing wrong with being a Kostka awardee. You should be really proud of it. However, if you got it by behaving and cooperating merely because the teachers are around, then the award is meaningless. If you bully your classmates, commit all possible violations that the prefects could ever imagine when no one is looking and then boast that you have outwitted the prefects, then you just cheapened the Kostka award. What is more important is what happens to you when you try to discipline yourself in class in order to be attentive, when you follow rules even when no teacher is looking, when you actively participate in class. Success is becoming who your Creator designed you to be.

There is nothing wrong with being given the Eagle and staff excellence awards. Ateneo expects excellence from us. However, if in the process of becoming excellent formators, we pull down our colleagues, damage our healthy working relationship or smear our co-workers reputation just to put ourselves in good light, then something is really, really wrong. Our work output, no matter how excellent it is, becomes futile if in the process we have become monsters out to destroy each other’s integrity and credibility. Success is becoming who our Creator designed us to be.

Now, you might ask me: how do we know our call? How do we know who we are designed to be? We have to go back to our roots, to our fundamental identity in order to know our call. This reminds me of a scene in the movie, The Lion King. After the tragic death of Simba’s father, Scar drove the young Simba away. He grew up to become a carefree lion in the jungle, away from his kingdom. One night, he was visited by the spirit of his father. Let us watch this brief video clip:

Simba: Father?
Mufasa’s spirit: Simba, you have forgotten me.
Simba: No. How could I?
Mufasa’s spirit: You have forgotten who you are and so have forgotten me. Look inside yourself,
Simba. You are more than what you have become. You must take your place in the
Circle of Life.
Simba: How can I go back? I'm not who I used to be.
Mufasa: Remember who you are. You are my
son, and the one true king.



Look inside yourself. You are more than what you have become. You must take your place in the Circle of Life. Remember who you are. You are my son... Remember…remember….

The gospel today echoes that same line when Mary and Joseph, after finding Jesus with the elders, confronted him. And Jesus replied: “Why were you searching for me? Didn’t you know that I had to be in my Father’s house?” Jesus knew who he was and to whom he rightfully belonged. No, not even tradition and filial love could deter him. He had to be where his Father wanted him to be.

And so, I pose that same question to you my friends: Who are you? Whose are you? When we know deep inside ourselves who we are and are deeply rooted in it, no amount of mass media enticements of having the most can ever enslave us or stop us from pursuing what really matters.

This was the experience of St. Stanislaus when he decided to leave family and country and walked miles just to join the Society of Jesus. No amount of anger from his father or threat from his brother or the unpredictability of the weather or the risk of crossing countries by foot could stop him from what he believed was his call, from becoming who God designed him to be.

It is in the same spirit that we, the AHS Jesuits will once more renovate our vows before God, with you as witnesses. It is our hope that in spite of our individual weaknesses and limitations and the many challenges we face and may continue to face, we may hold firm to God’s plan for us. We may always be reminded that our call is irrevocable. In spite of the lures of the world as we struggle for magis, we may be reminded of the perpetual vows we made years ago, and be strengthened in our commitment and zeal to confirm our call as companions of Christ, as men on mission, as Jesuits.

And it is in the same spirit that we, the AHS community are invited to ponder today: That in our pursuit for magis, may we not be carried away by the lures of the world to simply be the best, the brightest and the strongest. In our effort to aspire for more class banners, to make it to the honors’ list, to receive the Kostka award and the Eagle and staff excellence awards, may we always be rooted in our identity in God and in the process, be transformed into men and women that God has designed us to be. Whether or not we get the banners or the awards after the struggle, it will no longer matter as long as we know that in our struggle for magis we have gradually become the persons God, our Father and Creator designed us to be.

And so let me leave you with this question for reflection: In your search for the magis as student, teacher, staff, parent or administrator, what has become of thee, the person that God wanted you to be?

St. Stanislaus Kotska

Stanislaw Kostka, S.J. (28 October 1550 – 15 August 1568),
was a Polish novice of the Society of Jesus. In the Catholic Church, he is venerated as Saint Stanislaus Kostka.
He was born at Rostkowo, near Przasnysz, Poland, on 28 October 1550; died at Rome during the night of 14-15 August, 1568. He entered the Society of Jesus in Rome on his 17th birthday (28 October 1567), and is said to have foretold his death a few days before it occurred. St. Stanislaus Kostka is the patron of the Ateneo de Manila High School.

Novena Prayer to St. Stanislaus Kostka

St. Stanislaus, my most loving and tender patron,
I rejoice with you
at the extraordinary gift of your purity and charity
which kept your heart pure and innocent,
always at peace and united with God.

I humbly pray to you, please obtain for me
the strength to overcome all impure temptations
and inspire me with constant watchfulness
to guard my purity, for virtues so glorious in itself,
and acceptable to God.

At a very young age,
you have desired much to love
and serve the Lord with all your heart.
Help us dearest Saint, to be steadfast,
and to persevere in our love and service
to our Lord in everything that we do.
Help us too, to obtain the same love
you have for Mary, our mother.
I give thanks to her, because she granted your wish to be with her in heaven at the hour of your death.
Intercede with Mary for me, that my death,
if not as happy as yours, may be calm and peaceful,
under the protection of Mary, our advocate,
and of you, my special patron.

I humbly pray that you obtain for me such ardor of divine love
that it may consume every other earthly affliction,
and kindle in me the fire of His love alone.
Let us now pause to silently present our own petitions to God through the intercession of St. Kostka.

Our Father | Hail Mary | Glory be…

LET US PRAY

O God, among the wonders of Your wisdom, You have given the grace of mature holiness even to those of tender age, like St. Stanislaus Kostka. We ask You to grant that, after the example of St. Stanislaus, we may be able to persevere and love you with childlike faith, purity and charity. Amen.

v. Pray for us, St. Stanislaus

r. That we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ.

Thank You God!

A Prayer of thanksgiving and gratitude!

Rise, Renew and Rebuild

In this time when our brothers and sisters are in need after being affected by the typhoon Ondoy, we offer this prayer of consolation.

Lord,

Make me an instrument of your wellness:

where there is distress, calm;

where there is grief, support;

where there is ignorance,

knowledge and understanding;

where there is alienation,

optimism and peace.

Grant I may not seek to be elevated as to facilitate;

to be followed as to serve;

to be in control,

as to love...

for it is in giving of ourselves

that we facilitate healing.

It is in active listening

that we comfort,

and in dying

that we may find eternal life.

Prayer if St. Francis of Assisi

(Paraphrased by Dr. Bennett Kilpack)

4L 2010 Retreat Reflections

retreat

my brain was like a dirty whiteboard, dull and gray
cluttered with stresses and attentions, i needed to pray.
that is why it is cool to come here for the '3 day'
but it was hard to keep quiet because there was so much to say.
to my class mates who are all going away
but we had our sharing so it was ok.
we brought up old memories and demons we have to slay
together as a unit, we did pray
God help us appreciate and love one another everyday.

Sa bawat pagsubok
at mga pangamba
'Wag kang mag-alala
Nandiyan namn sila.

Robert Steven Villanueva, L2010

Ingay
Panginoon, sa katahimikan, ika'y napakinggan
Bagamat ito ay isang malaking kabalintunan
Naipakitang totoo at napatunayan
At doon sa katahimikan
Sigaw ng aming puso, sana iyong maramdam
at kung kami ay nag-iingayan,
Sa sigaw mo naman
Sana 'di namin makalimutan
At sa iyong tinig, kami ay mabuhayan

ni Miguel Nabar, L2010

Greater and Happier Things Will Come Soon

Yesterday, I got so surprised

To have seen and heard

a TV program present Christmas Carols

sung so early in September.

My sister said, it’s because we’re in the first ‘ber’ month.

And in the Philippines,

we know that Christmas starts early.

September ushers hope,

Hope that greater, happier things will come soon

Especially in December

When we all gather again as families

And spend together the most festive season of all.

This month our school carries the theme,

“Building the nation through compassionate

and humble service to those in need

in imitation of the Blessed Virgin Mary”

As Ateneans,

We look up to Mary as our perfect model.

She is the source of our hope.

Hope that happier things are about to happen in our lives.

Now that’s a thought that should console us

Actually, If we look around us,

We can see that God’s goodness abound

And that happier things will certainly take place.

A pile of newspapers for the ACIL Dyaryo Drive,

Stuff for our KFD booth.

Projects returned with a matching high grade.

A cleaner classroom.

A teacher listening with us.

Classmates praying for us.

Look around.

Look deeper.

Goodness abound.

***

Even as we look beyond our classroom walls

There are hopeful signs that God is at work.

God comes to meet us like the morning rising,

Slowly, though definitely;

Quiet yet clearly.

In our world.

Changes are taking place

In different nations throughout the world.

New leaders are being elected or raised

To replace old but formerly popular governments.

Clamors for environmental action,

Political unity and economic cooperation

Among different peoples

Are getting stronger and more urgent.

In our country:

Amidst the scrambling for seats of power in government,

There are still people who choose to relinquish opportunities

Or to let go of invested wealth and vested interests for the sake of common good.

The hearts of our people are moved by

the remembrance of individuals

Who have used prayer and faith,

Instead of sheer power and manipulation

To effectively improve the quality of our lives.

In our school:

There are programs and systems

that have been in place and have reached

12 and 35 years of service.

This school year, we celebrate the 12^th year

of the CSIP and the 35^th year Anniversary of

the Tulong Dunong Program.

Quietly, we hope to have a whole generation of Ateneans who have learned from our classroom lessons and their outreach experiences to care for the least in our society; Clearly, through a big family of TD scholars whom we have raised and are striving to live successful lives, we hopefully help them help their own families.

Changes in our liturgical practices

Like the added installation of women lay ministers

Who will assist the community

With the sacred duty of giving Holy Communion,

Allow us to see that life in the Ateneo is always,

new, unfolding and moved by God’s spirit

of justice and love.

Through our men and women lay ministers,

We remember that the call of Christ

to serve his Church is not meant only for

priests but for all.

Let us now pause to pray:

Dearest Mary, help us see that your Son, our Savior,

is at work in our midst.

Help us become like you, a living sign of hope,

That happier things are soon to come,

Hail Mary…

Full of grace the Lord is with you,

Blessed are you among women,

and blessed is the fruit of you womb Jesus!

Holy Mary…

Mother of God,

Pray for us sinners now,

and the hour of our death.

Amen.